We are here today and tomorrow we are no more and as such, it is our HUMAN RIGHT to ensure we remain healthy, happy and live with and on purpose. However, we are fed beliefs like get a career that earns you loads of cash, marry a rich man or for the men, marry an educated and beautiful woman etc. But we will miss out on the real joy of life if we live by false beliefs or the mandate of others and it would be rather disappointing and remorseful on the day you face death and you lived serving no purpose or never lived your dreams.
There are three (3) stages in finding your purpose. Should you negate one of these stages, you will keep living within the shadows of your actual dreams. To follow all three (3), you will begin to feel and see a major change in your life.
SOLITUDE. You have to learn to be alone. It can be terrifying to be alone because of the belief that you need someone around to make you happy or to make you feel valuable. Now, it must not be negated that having people around you is great and rewarding. However, when you are on a voyage to find who you are and your purpose, you need to segregate a bit from people (even those you care about). This is where the practice of meditation becomes critical because you will need to execute this practice as often as possible. To meditate is to find an environment free from noise and distractions and you dive within your thoughts and LISTEN. You are not allowed to speak but to just listen. When you exercise this practice, you will begin to see things differently and you will begin to view life differently. This stage is the eye-opener as you will slow your life down and you will see the turns you have made in your life and you will see the future before you and the turns you will need to make decisions on.
DECISION. After you have become one entity with your mind, you will be faced with decisions. You will have to decide what you want to do with your life and you may even have to cut away from certain environments and toxic people. You will have to decide to do what you were created with an innate love and passion within to do. I once heard a renowned motivational speaker said that we can’t always do what we love because sometimes what we love equates to having little or no money. But, I will say this with no apology, ensure you DO WHAT YOU LOVE. Money is important, YES! But money is not life. Let me paint a scenario on your canvas by asking you this – would you rather to be a High-profile Surgeon making millions and wake up every morning miserable or would you jump for joy waking up to being an artist knowing that you won’t always guaranteed a sale but you LOVE what you do? You can’t always take what people preach as gospel because they are popular or educated. You have to treat advice like eating sugar-cane (suck the juice out of it and throw away the trash). You must also keep in mind that we only live once and sometimes it is only once we get certain opportunities. You must make it count by making sound decisions between you and GOD. On a serious note, it is best sometimes not to ask your friends or even family what they think. ASK God! People will think you are crazy when you share that you and God made a decision but God is your experience and so it is not for anyone to understand what you share between you and Him but just for you.
EXECUTION. For a dream or a goal to be a reality, it MUST be acted on. Keeping goals on paper won’t create it. I used to sit and write morning, noon and night what I wanted for my life but I did nothing. After several years, I told myself I won’t write down my goals anymore until I was ready to shoot after them. Having gone through the solitude process, I realized I have been wasting my life and it was time to act so I started making life-changing decisions. You can too. If your purpose is to garner a charity for abused girls, then put things into place like creating a business plan, round up a few colleagues who would be interested in being a part of such a committee and seek sponsorship. Whether people want to accept this notion or not, I must say it – life is simple! If you want to do something with your life, ACT – do something.
I used these very stages in creating a life I am proud of today. I know I have a journey before me and I am ready to walk the road to my destiny. If you are ready to face your future, simply follow the above instructions and let us together as THE DREAM TEAM walk into our destiny.