Distinguishing Between Love & Sex!

Love is beautiful but what makes love between man and woman even more special is intimacy.

A lot of persons combine intimacy with sex when they are two opposites. Sex is BANG BOOM BANG but intimacy is the art of expressing love through caressing, kissing, hugging and ultimately making love (sex). You can have sex with anyone once there is lust and for some people, once there is cash but you can’t be intimate with everyone because that attach LOVE. Now, there are a lot of definitions for love and love has been characterized in types and categories but the love I am showcasing in this article is the intimate love between man and woman. Let us get to it.

You need to understand that there is a major difference between being in love and loving someone. Let me help you here – when you are in love with someone, you go out of your way to do things to impress them, to grasp their attention.

For the ladies, you cook, you clean his house, you iron his clothes — in essence, you bend your back! When women fall in love, they will do everything. For men, they will spend their last dime to ensure he impresses (dinners, movies etc). This stage is admirable because it is within this phase of relationship, is most adorable as when you are in love, it is like you breathe the person’s air. All you think about is the person and their affairs and their life. You become totally consumed. This stage can be called The Miracle Bomb! Persons should enjoy it and maintain it. When you love someone, it is quite different because at this stage, you accept the person as your significant other and so the days of going all out, somewhat diminishes. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this stage as it is perfectly normal as humans to become comfortable with someone.

So with that established – are you having sex with someone you should be making love with?


Sex usually is a release of imprisoned emotions. It is an activity that usually goes very quickly and it doesn’t really involve a lot of caressing and kissing. It is just a plug to a socket and BOOM – it is over (The man ejaculated and the women feels like weight was lifted). 

Now to make love, you must be in love and I want to assist! Below are tips.
  • Space. The question will surface about the couples who are married or those that live together. Ladies, you need to give your man space and time to miss you and desire you. Gentlemen, you need to give your woman space to allow her to reminisce on you and moments shared. Allow each other their space and time. For those that live together, you must find time you go out with your friends and find time when you take a vacation on your own. Give yourself the space away to appreciated the partner you have. LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE!!! Find time to enjoy the things you would normally do before marriage and children or before living together. You are still a person and you must retain your autonomy.
  • Gifts of Gratitude. Words come alive when it is infused with action. You express love by the things you do and the things you give. Gentlemen, give your woman a teddy-bear with her name on it, get her a necklace, a bracelet, roses, candy, and take her on a romantic dinner. Ladies, cook a romantic meal for your man, dress sexy for him, buy him gifts and hey – take him out to dinner! YES, take him out! Express it by giving gift that reflects how grateful you are to have the person in your life. It is a privilege when someone loves you and you should NEVER take that for granted.
  • TRANSPARENCY. Be honest with your partner. It is best to make your partner your best friend. Share your life because when you are transparent, it is when you will experience love at its highest.
Here are some great ideas to express love.
1. Create an indoor picnic. Get some finger food and a nice bottle of wine and right in your living room or bedroom, have a romantic picnic.
2. Make a collage of photos that captured special moments in your relationship and exchange as a gift.
3. Burn a CD with songs that make you think of your sweetheart, and give it to him/her.
4. Create an at-home spa day for your mate. Get the oils out and the hot towels and give your partner a full body massage. Relaxation is the key to great love-making.
5. Ladies & Gentlemen…When you make that special dinner…Just like when you go to a fancy event and a “dinner menu” is put on each plate describing each food item, do something similar. For example, on your menu, write “Spaghetti & Meatballs, made with passion to be with YOU.” Don’t forget to give your “event” or “restaurant” a name at the top of the menu.
Love is a beautiful experience. Don’t waste your life chasing “life” but let love find your heart and consume you. Stop having sex and WAIT until you are ready to make love.

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