So you have met your soul-mate, you both are flamboyantly in love and ready to commit. What happens when you meet the family and they dislike you? Should you back down and walk away or should you press and try to win the likes and possibly the love of the family? What should you do?
If you love your partner and your partner loves you, FIGHT for your relationship!
Below are three (3) POWERFUL means to stand your ground and gain the respect you deserve.
#1: Be respectful. Respect is have due regard for (someone’s feelings, wishes, or rights).
This means, regardless of how you feel towards someone or how they treat you, always treat them in a manner that commands admiration to your character. This means, if you overhear a conversation between your partner and their mother and she is bashing you because she simply don’t like you (for whatever reasons), you don’t go off and beat her down, you don’t attack. Simply make it known that you overheard the conservation and although it is debasing your character, you just want it known that you heard. Why should you make it known that you overheard? Simply this – when you keep things bottled up within, you will explode one day and that explosion may cause major irreplaceable damage. Another factor to note is when you keep things bottled up within, you only hurt you and studies have shown this to be evident with the widespread of depression, anxiety among other mental disorders.
#2: Be you! Don’t try to be what you think the family will admire or respect but be YOU which can possibly result in you obtaining the same or even higher admiration and respect you would attract if you pretended. I encourage persons to be authentic because one day when the real you steps forward, which usually happens at the strangest and the worst times, you could end up losing everything you were trying to build. Let people love you for you.
#1: Show love. The bible quoted the power of love and how it transcends all flaws and transforms lives.
“Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.”
— 1 Peter 4:8
Regardless of how bad they might think of you, you love your partner and for that reason, you should ensure they see that reflected in how you handle yourself and how you treat your partner. At the end of the day, it is really not about the family, it is really about the relationship. Sad to state, but these days, family members are given too much power that they are the ones in control and that should not be. Fathers and mothers believe it is their right to choose the man or woman their offspring should be with. Love has nothing to do with social status or physical appearance, it is an affair of the heart and no one should try to tamper with that.
Stay true to your love and fight for your relationship!