There is NO explanation for death other than it was derived from sin. It is not easy to comfort a grieving heart as it is not easy to stand over the lifeless body of a loved one. There is no easy way to handle death and its lingering stain.
The five stages of grief:
· Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”
· Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”
· Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return I will ____.”
· Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”
· Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what happened.”
Below are three (3) POWERFULmechanisms that have been tested and proven to offer solace once exercised.
1:Let it TOTALLY out! Tears don’t make you look weak and it is not a sign of weakness. God gave tears for a reason as he knew you would need your tears one day. Let it out – cry if you must, scream if you must. Simply, let it out. Take the time to grieve and if you need to be alone, take your alone time and grieve.
2: Accepting what is. Bring yourself to your reality that the person has died. It is wise to spend time with God during this stage. God will help you if you allow Him to. Use the Bible as a guide and over time, it will offer healing and that will bring you to a place of acceptance.
3:Breathe the fresh air again! Your loved one(s) would desire you to enjoy life. Time is indeed a pivotal factor as the grieving process do takes time but enjoy life by enrolling yourself back into the activities you used to do when the person was around, the things you enjoy doing. Sitting in pity and wallowing in grief for too long, (as anything done in excess) will do more damage than healing.
It is wise to keep a piece of item treasured by the person as means to celebrate their life. Death is not the end but the beginning of a NEW journey. It is a tough issue and an even more difficult situation to experience but truth is, we all must face it and the best way to handle death is to really ask God to keep your soul and to guard your destiny.